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Thriving in Widowhood
Tips for becoming physically, emotionally and financially healthy.

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When a loved one dies, it is easy for widows to become physically and emotionally unhealthy. This article provides tips on how to live a healthy life during this difficult time. Widows will also learn about strategies that can help them transition from grief, to growth, to grace so they can thrive in the future. 

Many women who have been through a recent loss are still in disbelief, some may be overwhelmed with grief too strong for them to overcome alone and others simply need guidance on how to take care of themselves while also taking care of their family or work responsibilities. 

Whatever your situation you can learn from experts’ advice on techniques that will help you move towards thriving as a widow.

What type of person would benefit from reading this article? I think anyone struggling with the death of a loved one as well as advice for those looking to help someone else who has lost their spouse.  

Having coached clients who are widows, I understand how difficult it is to feel like you can go on after such a devastating loss. You may find yourself struggling with every day tasks and feeling unmotivated in your work. For myself, I experienced immense grief and loss after the terminal illness and death of my son and I learned much from the experience, and discovered helpful strategies that others can employ too. 

My unique three-step system is a blueprint for self mastery, a survival guide for women who are experiencing a crisis in health, relationships or career and want to clarify and solidify your best life by guiding you to develop confidence ​and clarity.  Gain insights and structures that give you the clarity and confidence to break free of the patterns that hold you back and pivot to empowerment and fulfillment!

We begin the journey with self-awareness, then introduce habits for self-care, followed by the addition of strategies which lead to self-mastery

SELF AWARENESS

Fully understand your beliefs, needs, values, priorities

SELF CARE 

Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually

SELF MASTERY & FULFILLMENT

Learn, grow, connect, contribute

Self-Awareness

How does your emotional state change day to day? 

Monitor your self-talk and self-beliefs. Make sure you are speaking positively about yourself in order to increase self esteem and confidence 

What are the three words that keep you going every day?

Have you ever walked alone? Loneliness is common.  Don’t be afraid to ask friends or family members for help if it is needed! This will allow them to continue being supportive throughout this difficult process while maintaining their own sanity at home too. 

 

Self-Care

Taking care of yourself is the best way to honor your loved one. In order to be emotionally healthy, it’s essential to take care of yourself physically with exercise and nutritious food. You have to take good care of yourself, no one will do it for you. If your energy is low, make time for rest and relaxation like meditating or taking a yoga class.

If you’re struggling to get back into a fitness routine, try thinking of activities that play to interests and strengths; maybe trying out boxing would let you channel some frustration while taking care of an essential part of your body at the same time! 

Alternatively, joining a hiking group might be what’s needed for increasing happiness in addition to exercise. Widows can get out of the house by spending time outdoors or going on group outings with other widowed individuals in their community.

Do you have a morning routine?  Morning habits and bedtime rituals fuel your heart, mind and body.  

  • Rise early, take time to reflect, meditate, set intentions
  • Develop a routine to start your day and build momentum
  • Improve Sleep hygiene develop healthy bedtime rituals 
  • Become fit and sexy and fall in love with yourself again! 

Take time to pause and reflect each day. When you learn to savor solitude, you discover the difference between being alone and being lonely. 

Meditative thought helps us clarify our feelings, release negative energy, recharge. Practise gratitude, Meditate, Spend time in Nature.

Journal  

I keep a beautiful leather-bound notebook that I purchased in France and write in it each morning with a special, crystal pen. Sometimes I record ideas on the go as well.  Journaling helps us to set and achieve goals, and relieves stress. It’s an opportunity for self reflection, boosts memory and inspires creativity.

Widowhood doesn’t have to stop you from being financially stable either! There are several ways that a widow can protect themselves against financial hardship such as having adequate life insurance policies before becoming a widow, investing money wisely after loss and more!  

Self-Mastery & Fulfillment

Escape

Unplugging and getting away does more than just give you a break, it changes you!  Discover the perks of being unavailable… We need space to escape to discern the few things that matter from the trivial many.  Consider taking a trip or going on a retreat.

Play

One of the first steps is play, which means engaging in activities that keep us feeling alive; this could include exercising frequently if we enjoyed it before our loss or finding different ways to stay engaged, curious and inspired. Start a hobby, take a trip with other single women. 

Play and learning are intertwined.  Play expands our minds in ways that allow us to explore: Play is integral to creativity, to germinate new ideas or see old ideas in a new light.  

Learn

Adapting means unlearning and relearning.  In order to learn something new we must be open minded, curious and willing to change.  Play more, contribute what you can (within reason), and grow emotionally stronger by understanding who you are again. 

I gained valuable insights about myself when my son died.  I was amazed by the outpouring of love I received from the community and I felt comforted and supported.  And in my darkest moments I discovered that focusing on gratitude helped immensely. Also, instead of allowing myself to ruminate I poured my attention into serving my clients and focused on ways to help others.

Meaning is healthier than happiness.  People who look for purpose in their work are more successful in pursuing their passions, and less likely to quit their jobs, than those who look for joy.  While enjoyment waxes and wanes, meaning tends to last.

Connect 

Get together with others who are also grieving the loss of a spouse. Many people experience grief in different ways and it can be helpful to have conversations about your life after you’ve lost someone close to you. It’s important that you do this before becoming swamped by work or family responsibilities, which is why now is an excellent time for widows to take care of themselves! Consider joining groups whose interests you share: Book Clubs, Hobbies, Pets, Gardening, Sports, Travel,

Contribute meaningfully. Be intentional and give with purpose.  Get involved with a charity, a spiritual group or community organizations.  Join a club, or networking organization.

I am passionate about helping women convert chaos to clarity and build health and confidence with solutions that change their lives.

My Process:
I start by listening carefully and directing you with questions to help you see yourself clearly, identify your gifts and become intentional and disciplined in the pursuit of what is most important to you. I empower you to move the needle for yourself! 
If you’re on a personal quest for excellence and want to feel truly alive and inspired, chat with me today! 

This article is written by Maura Joy Lustig

I help purpose driven, professional women to struggle less and achieve more. My clients are achievers who are struggling with work life balance and feel unfulfilled. They know there’s more to life and that they’re capable of more and they’re ready to go after it..

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