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Should I just let my husband have everything he wants (the retirement account, the house, etc.) in our divorce? It’s so overwhelming to think about fighting endlessly about these things.

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No, no, no. You are entitled to a share of the assets, and even though the fight may be difficult, your long-term financial future depends on you securing assets for yourself. Of course, you don’t want to spend more on legal fees than you would receive in a property settlement, so you have to be strategic. But I recommend making a plan for what a fair settlement is and being firm in your demands regarding this. Don’t settle too early or for too little.